As featured author for NAPO-GPC (2nd month in a row!) I explain how to let expensive, sentimental, and inherited items in our wardrobes GO! You can read it here, or on the NAPO-GPC site:
My role as organizer usually involves helping people:
• live with less
• have more within easy reach
• love what they store.
In my experience, even when someone commits to trimming their wardrobe, there is one item they want to get rid of but (in their words) “can’t!” In these situations, what’s really behind their “can’t” is guilt. When I hear a closet client say “I can’t get rid of this,” I know the clothing in question was either expensive, a gift, or it holds sentimental value.
If the item was expensive… and they haven’t worn it (ever or enough), the struggle is about throwing good money away.
Honestly, they’re wasting more money by storing this item. Waiting too long to resell something is not smart; resale avenues like The RealReal, Clothes Mentor and Thred Up pay more for recent purchases.
If the item was a gift… from someone they love, their love for the person is getting in the way of their ability to decide what they want in their life.
They sometimes think that letting the item go is akin to rejecting the gift-giver’s love, kindness, generosity, and attention. Trust me, your favorite aunt knows you love her even if you don’t love the winter hat she gave you.
I always reassure clients that no one gives a gift in order to burden the recipient.
A recipient’s only responsibility is to be gracious in accepting the gift.
—You can always donate the item or its value to a charitable organization the gift-giver supports to lessen the pain of letting the item go from your life. Let it be a gift that keeps on giving — to someone else!
If the item holds memories it will fall into one of two categories:
1) Clothing from the person’s own life (even if it was someone else’s at some point).
When I come across these sentimental clothes, the first question I ask is:
Will you still wear it?
• If the answer is yes, it can stay.
•. If the answer is no, then I suggest the t-shirt, wedding gown, or cheerleading skirt move to a spot more suitable to memories and nostalgia.
2) Clothing that holds memories may have belonged to a deceased loved one.
I help people navigate these sensitive areas often. What I counsel, is to keep only the sweatshirts, t-shirts, or hats that meant something to the departed and mean something still to you if you have room for it.
To me, your adored Uncle’s memory does not hinge on a single t-shirt…not even on his entire t-shirt collection. I recommend that if you let items go from your life (that belonged to someone you loved) decide how you will remember this person (in thought or deed) once you let the item go. Then be intentional in keeping their memory alive.